Most of us still love our ex even after we break up which is why I am assuming you are reading this article. If you want to get your ex back there are some very simple things you can do in order to succeed at this. First of all, when you search how to get your ex back online you will get one main answer. Ignore them, move on with your life, show them you don’t need them, and suddenly that will make them want you back. No I am not saying that this is bad advice but the fact is everyone is different and what has worked for some may not work for others.
The first thing you have to do when you are trying to get your ex back is decide what kind of person they are. Are they a chaser? If they are in love with the chase than yes the above advice would work just find but here is my question for you, if they are in love with the chase and not you than why do you want them back in the first place? Men who are in love with the chase soon get bored after the chase is over. If your ex is someone who is more connected to you say for instance your best friend for several years, showing them that you can live without them is going to do nothing more than push them away and hurt them.
So here is what you do. If you break up, text them and say something like, “If it is possible, I would still like to remain friends.” See what the reply is. If they are open to it, it does not mean that you suddenly go into gushing about how much you love them and how you can never live without them. When you talk to them which should be once every two or three days to start out with, just ask them how they are doing, be excited about the things that are going on in your life, and wish them luck on anything they are doing. Express your love for them by telling them that you wish the best for them. Texting is usually the best way to start this.
Eventually this will lead to phone calls. Then you will be able to rebuild your friendship. If you don’t take the time to rebuild your friendship than you will never have a lasting relationship with your ex. Be a great friend, be happy when you talk to them, don’t complain about how lonely you are or how much you miss them. Dropping a random, “Wow I was just thinking about you,” when they call will peak their interest.
Just like any new relationship, you have to let this evolve naturally. Obviously you don’t want it to go back to exactly the way it was before you broke up otherwise you would not have broken up in the first place. So let the relationship evolve into something much stronger than you had to begin with. I do advise that you find something to occupy your time, find a productive hobby or work on getting in shape. I do not recommend you become a regular at the bar or clubs because this will quickly make your ex run the other direction.
