Breaking up can be so hard to do. You don’t want to hurt the other person, but sometimes it has to be done. Here are a few tips in letting someone down easy.
Tell them how you feel
The most important thing to do if you are going to break up with someone is tell them how you feel. Don’t just break up with a person in a text or email and not explain what went wrong. It should be done in a personal and empathic way. The worst type of breakup is the unresolved ones. Everyone deserves and explanation and closure. Some people may never get over it, but at least they will know what went wrong and hopefully will be able to grow from it.
Don’t say corny lines
One of the worst things you can do in a breakup is use of lines like” it’s not you, it’s me.” When you say thoes cliche outdated lines it just seems so rehearsed and not genuine. Say what you feel, but don’t use a breakup line if it can be helped.
Never bring up another person
If your soon to be ex doesn’t ask about another person being involved, don’t offer that information. Make it just about the two of you. However, more often than not they probably will ask if there is somebody else. If there is, access the situation on a need to know basis. Knowing another person is involved usually makes it worse, and causes more retaliation.
Leave the door open
For a short time after breaking up, you may find your ex still texting and calling you. Breaking up is hard because it’s usually a heart broken. So don’t be so insensitive not to respond to heartfelt sadness they are expressing. Don’t keep it going, But at least respond with something positive like, “I’m sorry I hurt you.” Then let that be it. Don’t keep the communication long, however don’t ignore all together if they aren’t speaking nonsense.