Life is full of interesting things. There are a lot of beautiful girls, great guys, things to visit, careers to follow and parties to rock. All of this seen normal, but it is not for a shy person. Being shy is not easy. After all you want to participate in all the social meetings but you are afraid to approach people. Most of your time you are alone hearing music or playing videogames. Let me be clear. I am not talking that everybody that hears music alone or play videogames is shy. I am talking that most of the shy people do things alone because they are afraid to approach the group. The problem with that is that if you are afraid and alone then it is almost impossible to be invited. I know all of that because I was shy. Fortunately not all is bad. I will tell you how to defeat shyness and live the life you want.
First of all the easiest way to defeat shyness is to model someone you want to be alike. For example, I wanted to be like James Bond. I watched all the James Bond movies including movies of Sean Connery, Roger Moore, George Lazenby, Timothy Dalton, Pierce Brosnan and Daniel Craig. I tried to imitate James Bond when I was talking with people and it helped me a lot. Of course that doesn’t mean that you have to adapt a different persona and that you will be James Bond forever. The purpose of this is to model his behavior. When you have more confidence in yourself then you will have your true personality. The second step to defeat shyness is to read newspapers, watch the news and read magazines. It seems like a lot of homework but it is very important. For example, if you are in the gym and a person is talking about the recent news then you will know what to say and you can have your own opinion. If you read a women magazine then you will have knowledge of the things woman like and when a girl you like start talking about a topic then you will have confidence to talk about the topic. The third step to defeat shyness is to practice talking in group. If you don’t practice then you never will learn. After all practice is what make us better in everything in life. If you like a girl, approach her fast without thinking because if you think too much then it is probable you will never approach her. Just be spontaneous and be funny. You don’t have to be a James Bond. After all you have your own personality and if you are following the steps to defeat shyness then you will conquer shyness and you will live the life you want.