When you find out your partner has cheated, you will face many emotions. You may feel bad about yourself, you may feel that it was your fault that they cheated. You may begin speaking negatively to yourself, and you may find that you are starting to feel depressed. What can you do to change these things?
When you find yourself in the situation where your partner has cheated, you need to first decide what is going to happen with the relationship. You have to decide if you are going to continue on with the relationship or if you are going to move on with your life. Once this decision is made you now have to work with the feelings that come with being cheated on.
One great way you can work through the feelings you are experiencing in to create a journal. You can do this with a notepad and pen or simply use your computer. Getting your feelings out and down on paper will help you to understand that what has happened was not your fault. You can also talk to a close friend about what has happened. This is much more difficult because none of us want others to know that we have been cheated on but if you have a friend that will understand the situation you can talk to them.
Stop focusing on the loss of the relationship. You need to spend time focusing on the positives in your life instead of the negatives. The more you focus on the positive the better you will begin to feel. Try to create a list of all the things you are thankful for, when you begin to focus on the negative feelings that come with being cheated on, read your list.
Sit down and think about all the things that you did not enjoy about the relationship, those are the things you want to avoid in the future. Telling yourself that you are better off without the relationship will help you to feel better about yourself.
Find time to do the things you enjoy. Make sure you are not focusing on the actions of your ex. Focus on the things that make you happy. This is a time when you are allowed to get lost in your work. The busier you stay the easier it will be to get over the feelings that you are facing. Find a hobby that you enjoy and spend time doing it. Make sure you find time to spend with your friends. This is not a time that you want to be alone.
Listen to positive affirmations each and every day. These can be found online completely free and when you are feeling down, they will do wonders to lighten your mood and make you feel better about yourself. When you listen to positive affirmations, you need to focus on what is being said. You can also have them playing in the back ground throughout your day. This will change your thinking and you will begin to feel amazing.
Learning how to deal with your emotions when you have been cheated on or hurt in any way is something all of us need to do. If we do not learn how to deal with our emotions, we will end up facing problems such as depression. Using the tips I have given you can help you from reaching that point.