Most often we find that our ex’s do not display any jealousy until we move on to a new relationship. They often try to blame the new person in your life for the breakup and they will try and do anything they can to make that person miserable. They blame that person for everything that happened in the relationship and they find them responsible for their own lack of happiness. They feel that if they can cause that person to be unhappy that they will leave you and you will have no other choice but to come back to them.
Dealing with an ex who is jealous can seem very complicated especially if there are children involved, but it doesn’t have to be that way. If there are not children involved, dealing with a jealous ex is very easy. You simply need to tell the person to get out of your life that they are not going to bring any more turmoil into your current relationship, and then ignore them. Don’t answer their phone calls, delete their text messages, and don’t open their emails. Block them from viewing your Facebook account and basically delete them from your life.
If there are children involved, than it can become much harder to deal with the ex. At this point, you will have to sit down with your ex and have a discussion with them. You are going to have to explain to them that your new partner had nothing to do with the relationship ending, and that they have to stop blaming your new partner for everything that happened. You will also have to explain to your ex that you have moved on with your life and you would love to see them do the same. If your ex insists on continuing with the jealous behavior you will have to tell them that they do not need to contact you unless it has something to do with your children. You can also tell them to not contact your new partner for any reason. After all there is no reason whatsoever for them to have any contact with your new partner.
You and your new partner should be patient with your ex and try to understand that each person deals with their feelings in their own way. It may seem childish and immature right now but this is how your ex is dealing with the loss of the relationship. Encourage your new partner and show them you love them in as many ways as you can. Take the time you need to focus on your new relationship and do not focus on the things your ex is doing. If you don’t focus on what they are doing than you will take away the power they have from doing such things. Most importantly you should understand that this will not last forever. There will come a point in time when your ex accepts that your relationship is over and that you have moved on with your life. They will begin moving on with theirs also. You will no longer be what they focus on.