You know what surprises me most about the ending of The Bachelor? Juan Pablo is being made out to be the bad guy and Clare is rocking it as the poor jilted woman who was treated badly. But was anyone really mislead?
Why did so many become angry with Juan Pablo? He never claimed to be a committed Christian like the previous season’s Sean Lowe did nor did Juan Pablo hide how attracted he was to many of the women. Sometimes, watching him respond to the scantily clad beauties was like watching a fox licking his chops while peeking in the hen house window. So, why did we expect more from Juan?
Early in The Bachelor season, in every article or comment I read about it, people were making a huge deal out of the fact Juan Pablo kissed other women after telling some of them he was not going to be kissing everyone because of his daughter. Directly after that, Juan Pablo was shown kissing women and people immediately slammed him for lying. I didn’t see it that way though. Juan was just kissing women he already kissed–not adding a new one to the assortment of his “already kissed” bevy of women. Yes, Juan Pablo was just beginning to flex his “slithering” muscles.
Then, Juan Pablo slipped out to the ocean with Clare Crawley–a delectable sweet who sneaked away from the other girls to Juan’s bachelor pad and issued an invitation to him for a late-night swim in the ocean. Juan went but after that intimate night, he informed Clare that they could not repeat their behavior because of his daughter.
Once again, people slammed Juan for what they deemed as “ungentlemanly” behavior. Yet, I saw him as a man who gave into temptation and regretted it. After all, Clare knew exactly what she was doing when she went to his room that night. This was not some lothario-driven scene where Juan Pablo lured the unsuspecting, innocent Clare out for a night of hanky-panky.
On a later episode, we see that Nicky (the blonde, pediatric nurse) actually gets to meet Juan Pablo’s daughter and family. It’s only for a few minutes but still, Juan didn’t wait until the end of the season to introduce her to his family as is usual on “The Bachelor.” That was a huge clue. And did you notice it was not the opportunistic Clare who was invited on that date?
Then surprise, surprise–Clare marched upstairs, verbally attacked Nicky and with narrowed eyes let the world know exactly how much she did not like her blonde competitor. Still, a few episodes later, Clare is offered the option of “The Fantasy Suite.” Juan was always very clear about his strong physical attraction to Clare all along. He did not try to hide what he saw in her.
Now, every Bachelor fan knows the bachelor is not supposed to proclaim his love to the woman of his choice until the “Final Rose Ceremony.” But sneaky Clare, when she knew their microphones were off after the helicopter landed on their final date, asked Juan “just to tell her he loved her.” It’s really not an unreasonable request and we all know Clare is not one to miss an opportunity.
According to Clare though, what Juan responded with next was a vulgar statement no woman wanted to hear. Well, my guess is that Juan responded like most crass men would who had a beautiful woman in his clutches that he enjoyed a physical relationship with but did not love. I believe he told her what he did love about their relationship and the terms he used were probably just as vulgar as Clare claimed they were. Now, of course, this is speculation on my part but I believe it is a reasonable speculation.
Yes, Clare got angry but she did not leave. I believe everyone who clapped when she “gave him a piece of her mind” after he didn’t pick her in the end, needs to remember that Clare chose to stay. She knew who he was. She knew what he was capable of and she chose to stay. She would not have said all those things if he had picked her.
So, Juan Pablo offered Nicky the final rose and not Clare. Clare was for playtime. Nicky was for a relationship.
(As a side-note–Juan has since said he didn’t like the fact he wasn’t given more privacy. So he’s stubbed up and refused to give Chris Harrison and the producers of the show a big ending like they wanted. He did not surprise Nicky with a proposal or even an “I love you.” Well, all I have to say about that is Juan shouldn’t have signed up for “The Bachelor” if he wanted privacy. People watch that show because they love romance. We look forward to seeing all the romantic details. Juan took that away from us viewers.)
So, even though there wasn’t a proposal, I wasn’t surprised by Juan Pablo’s choice or the outcome of the show. In fact, if you know very much about men like Juan Pablo–the ending makes perfect sense. It’s like the story of the little boy who showed kindness to a snake but after getting bitten, asked the snake why. The snake told him, “You knew I was a snake when you picked me up.”
ABC knew. Clare knew and now we all know.