I have a unique ability to get along with almost anyone. I learned my skill through what many may call a heartbreaking story. From the time that I was a very small child, I was moved from home to home through the foster care system. While many problematic issues might arise from such a situation, I was unique in that I was able to use the experience as a learning tool. The most moves happened between the ages of nine and 15. I had been moved 27 times in three states. Quick adjustments were a part of my daily life.
The most amazing part of my journey was that I was able to meet and get to know so many people from different ethnic and cultural backgrounds. I learned how different people reacted to a multitude of situations. I learned about many different religions and beliefs. I learned what challenges there were to handling a large variety of situations with all kinds of people.
Now I use the skills that I learned and apply them to my professional life. I am the type of person that if given the chance, I can talk my way into any job. I have worked in public relations as a result of my talent. There have been many instances that I have been sent to work the most ”difficult” of clients because my employer knew I had a way with people.
When building relationships with new friends or clients, I always do the following:
- 1. I always use active listening. Be a participant in the listening by showing the other person that you genuinely care about what they are saying.
- 2. I always maintain eye contact.
- 3. I always respect boundaries. People have an automatic area of personal space. It is respectful to respect that personal space. I never offer any physical contact that is not first offered by the other person. I never point fingers or put my hand in their face.
- 4. I always try to read body language. Body language can tell a great deal about how a person is feeling.
- 5. I always try to see things from their point of view. The best way to build a relationship with another person is to be able to see things from their point of view. People all too often try to superimpose personal values onto other people.