What does love mean to you? Discussions about love are so common that even in the best case, you will get dizzy. But what does love mean to you?
Yesterday I noticed thoughts of self-love at the highest level, which is called unconditional love. Unconditional love means allowing everything to be just as it is. Unconditional love refers to the universal natural grace that allows everything to be just the way it is.
Have you ever felt sincere gratitude for anything that occurs in your life? If you have, then you know how these moments, eyes filled with tears and we are experiencing the boundless love around us. It’s not anyone’s love for us, but we are experiencing a time of supreme grace of nature, which allows it all to happen. Unfortunately, this feeling is generally momentary.
It’s the grace of nature, which is called unconditional love. All of our world happens by the grace of nature, allowing those hundreds and thousands of billions of beings to be just the way they are. Among them, are also people who, unfortunately, have egoistic expectations towards others, cut themselves from taking advantage of the grace and unconditional love all the time, and instead of receiving love, they always feel empty inside.
However, we are also sometimes clement. For example, you are absolutely clement to your children, by allowing them to be who they are. That’s why we say that we experience the unconditional love of children. However, sometimes, we are merciful, even against our enemies, by forgiving those acts, which hurt us. Overall, we are clement to our peers, by allowing them to be more or less the way they are. But at the moment the grace ends, we will not allow them to no longer be who they are, but demand something else from them – the love ends.
By taking base love as grace, we are moving closer to how we as humans, could really love our peers. As natural grace allows everything to happen (because it loves), we as humans, could allow our peers out of our grace, to be the ones who they are (because, after all, we claim that we love them). Love does not have a sense of ownership, excessive expectations, demands, manipulation and violence because they are robbing our clemency, our love .
Loving in this context doesn’t, however mean, that we need to accept everything, what the other is doing. The main tool for free love is dialogue and listening to each other, resulting in lovers always having a choice, if I can, and want to meet the expectations of the other, or not? If I can / want, I will do it out of love and respect. If I can’t / don’t want, the second choice is, whether to stay or go.
In free love, there is only one rule, lovers do or fail to do the things only out of respect or love. If we allow our peers to be and do everything (even sleep with another person), they don’t do it because they love and respect us. If we, however, ban our peers from it, we do not love them anymore because we have lost our grace in respect to them, a divine attribute to allow the other to be exactly who they are and to experience what they need.
In free love, there is no jealousy because jealousy refers to envy towards other person’s love. When my peer likes anyone else, I’m jealous of them in respect of my peer’s clemency. However, it’s not divine, but selfish. They say that if you’re jealous, you love, but the truth is, if you’re jealous, you’re not loving, but owning.
Can you love someone so much that you’re gracious to them, regardless of what they do? We do not own anyone. We have a choice to love people, be clement to them, or change them. Love makes us divine because our love for ourselves, comes from that. However, changing others, makes us human because we are accustomed to think that we own other people.