I have always heard that parenting doesn’t come with a handbook. The same is true for the children, loving a parent doesn’t come with one either. As we seek to build relationships in adulthood, we are alone without decisions for the first time in our lives. Stopping in unannounced for a visit, inviting your parents for supper, helping without the need to be asked and calling for no reason other than to hear their voice are a few ways to show your love and respect long after they stopped being your primary caretakers.
I have always enjoyed being spontaneous with my parents. Not one for concrete planning, I am always ready to be somewhere else in a jiffy. There is nothing better than showing up on father’s day or mother’s day and knocking on their door with a request to join me for breakfast at their favorite diner. The visit doesn’t always have to revolve around money being spent; it can include sitting back and chatting or watching a movie. Perhaps you want to invite them to your home. There is nothing that I wouldn’t sacrifice for a moment of laughs with my parents. It is far too often for many to realize that it’s too late.
If you have been blessed with parents who have always been by your side and ready to lend a helping hand, a listening ear, or who even just provided a great life where your needs were always taken care of then you are one of the lucky ones. To have parents that have been that involved in your life is a complete blessing. It shows that they truly cared about you and wanted to show you the way to a brighter and more fulfilling future. They were your steady rock upon which you could climb in weary weather. Be sure that as an adult, you return the blessings of your past. It is one of the easiest ways to show that you not only appreciated their sacrifices but that you also learned to respect them along the way. It doesn’t have to involve beating down their door, but if they are sick, pop in with some chicken noodle soup (like when you were a child) or in bad weather help them clear a path to walk safely on. While you may believe that they are strong enough to do for themselves, the acts of helping without them asking brings comfort to their hearts.
Nothing in life is more fulfilling to a parent than to raise a child into a responsible, well intended and respectful adult. Let your parents know today that you value them, appreciate them and need them in your life more than they need you. Respect them beyond all others, they showed you the way, the gift and the ability to be who you are in the world today. Don’t stop believing in them because you are grown now, now is the time to show them the masterpiece they created.