In college, my good friend set me up on a blind date. I’d say it was successful. After all, I married my date. We’ve been together for over 11 years and have two children (and four furry animals). Blind dates can be uncomfortable or down right horrible. However, here are five tips for a successful blind date.
Make It a Double
For my blind date, we made it a double date. My friend, who had set up the blind date, brought her boyfriend along. Since both my future husband and I both knew the couple, it made the date more comfortable. There weren’t any lulls in the conversation or awkward moments. Having another couple with you doesn’t mean you won’t have any alone time either. However, if you have any food between your teeth, you will have a friend to tell you.
I have been set up on dates with people that weren’t necessarily right for me. Sometimes, people like to play matchmaker. They probably have good intentions. However, it’s important to be clear about what qualities you look for in a possible significant other. According to psychologist Edward A. Dreyfus, PhD, “you have to take steps that will ensure you’re only going out with people who actually have potential.” In other words, give specific criteria for interests, physical traits, faith and political affiliations (if those are things that matter to you).
Have Plenty to Do
For my blind date, we had dinner in the city. Then, we walked around all the cool shops and went to check out the view at the top of a tall building. Choose an activity that is fun but also gives you the opportunity to talk to your date. Miniature golf, bowling or a seasonal festival are a few ideas. Outdoorsy types might enjoy hiking. You can always check out an aquarium. For dinner, try a place where they cook the food in front of you or, perhaps, even light your dessert on fire.
When planning your excursion, you want to ask enough questions to make sure you plan a date both parties will enjoy. For instance, you might love sports but your date might not. Planning a date to visit the Empire State Building won’t be much fun if your date is afraid of heights. Furthermore, if you are taking your date somewhere unfamiliar, call the location ahead of time and ask for tips. For instance, ask: what are the crowds like on the day you are planning to go? Do you need cash? What are the must-see attractions or must-try food items on the menu? Looking on a review site like Yelp might help you decide if you want to try out a new restaurant.
Weather and traffic are things that could possibly ruin a date. Thus, be prepared. If you are traveling on the freeway, check the traffic. This can prevent you from sitting in a traffic jam or being late for a reservation (or even worse, picking up your date late). If you a going to the beach or exploring tide pools, it would be a good idea to check the tide. Of course, taking a look at the hourly weather report can help you dress appropriately.
Hopefully, these tips for a successful blind date will help you get asked out again….it worked for me!
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