I have always been a little awkward and a lot immature. I’m much more comfortable making jokes than making earnest attempts to be seductive. The people who meet me would probably be shocked to know about my job as an erotica author.
I started writing erotica as an experiment. It started because I wanted to see how much money I could make in that genre. My young adult novel wasn’t selling all that well, so I decided to challenge myself to get past my initial discomfort and learn to write all the dirty words. What I didn’t expect was to learn a few things that improved my love life.
I write about a lot of different kinks that I’m not necessarily into myself. Because it’s a business, I have to be aware of what’s selling so I try to learn new things all the time to expand my audience.
I’ve learned a few things along the way that were so intriguing I wanted to put them to use in real life. The results were– very nice.
As a mom, multitasking is the key to accomplishing anything. But I make sure to set aside some time that’s just for me so that I can put myself in a sexy frame of mind and write. Every relationship can benefit from taking a few stolen moments to be lovers instead of parents.
Talking is Hot
When I get stuck in a story I talk it out with my husband. He helps me work through sticky plot points, but an added bonus is that sharing these naughty stories is pretty stimulating. Don’t be shy about sharing a scene in the book you read or movie you watched that excited you. Talking about your day doesn’t always have to mean talking about office drama.
Share a Sexy Secret
For obvious reasons, I can’t necessarily tell everyone I meet what I do. My husband and I are in on something together and it gives us an intimate secret that most people around us aren’t privy to. Only he knows what I’m really scribbling in my notebook during a PTA meeting.
Open Up About Fantasies
Sometimes when I’m stuck on an idea for the next story, I ask my husband to tell me something that turns him on. Even though we don’t act on these fantasies, it’s amazing how hot it is just talking about the things we love to imagine doing.