There are five different love languages, and everyone has one primary language that speaks louder than the others. People have many things that they need to learn, but they will not learn it properly if their emotional tank is not full of love. The five love languages are physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, and gifts. A person needs a little bit of all five of the languages to be able to feel unconditionally loved. If the other person is loved unconditionally, he will learn how to love others unconditionally. If a one is not receiving the love in the way he is craving, he will start to act out. Overdose people with that one language and add a sprinkle of the other four.
Everybody needs to be touched a little bit, but those whose language is physical touch, needs to be touched a little more. Some may reject certain touches in places, but a hug or simple touch on the arm while walking by can mean the world to this person!
Encouraging words are a very important way to express love. Be careful how you word things to a Words of Affirmation person. We can build them up with our words or bring them down with our condemning words. Everything we say to this person will affect them in some way – good or bad!
Everyone needs time even if time is not his primary language. Quality time is not only spending time with someone, but also giving him your undivided attention. We all have busy schedules, so it will not just happen, we have to set aside time for others!
We all enjoy receiving gifts every now and then! It doesn’t matter how big or expensive the gift is. It matters if it is from the heart, how much love is behind it. Give gifts to people in unique ways and you can enjoy giving it, just knowing how receiving they will be!
“The ultimate purpose for acts of service to children is to help them emerge as mature adults who are able to give love to others through acts of service.” (Gary Chapman’s “The Five Love Languages”) We are not here to just please others but to do what is best for them. We should be serving others, even if they do not have anything in return.
A person will go a long way if his emotional tank is full. Apply this in every relationship, marriage, with children, and friendships. Watch people; figure out what their primary love language is and start giving others what they need! Get to know yourself even, take the assessment and find out what yours is: http://www.5lovelanguages.com