Online dating is very common these days. It’s very easy to upload a picture and fill out a profile in hopes of meeting “the one.” Here are five lessons that I’ve learned from online dating.
1. People are different in “real life.”
I can’t tell you how many times I finally met someone in person and they ended up being completely different than their online persona. The main thing that I notice that is different about them is their looks. I don’t know if people are purposely making themselves look different online or that for some reason all the cameras these people are using are making them look different in their pictures. All I know is that it’s a little weird when you have a certain image in your head of a person and then when you meet them they look nothing like it. Given that I’m very tall most guys are shorter than me. I don’t want to say it’s a deal breaker but the funniest thing to me is when I imagine the guy to be taller and then I meet him and he’s about a foot shorter than me.
2. Sometimes it’s best to just be friends.
I met someone online through mutual friends back in high school and when we finally met up in person there was nothing there. It ended up being okay because we still had a lot of similar interests and mutual friends so we in turn just remained friends. It’s not a bad thing if you meet someone and you decide it’s best to just remain friends. It can be hard if one person just wants to be friends and the other person wants a relationship though. Fortunately for me we were both on the same page.
3. Don’t give your number out to just anyone.
Unless you enjoy getting spammed by random people I wouldn’t suggest just giving your phone number out right away. Stick with just communicating through the dating website or however you two are communicating online. I just recently got a new phone and phone number. My previous number was a number that I had had since high school so it was nice to finally rid of that number to start over on who gets to have my number. I can’t tell you how many times over the years someone that had my number would text me checking to see if that number still belonged to me. Sometimes I even wonder if those people even knew who they were texting and weren’t just texting every number they’ve ever got. Another thing, in regards to online dating, in case the first date/meeting turns out to be bad you can easily just block them from the dating website or other online communication. It’s a bit more tricky blocking phone numbers.
4. Don’t under any circumstances lie about anything!
Don’t make a profile that depicts a dream person if that person isn’t you. Don’t use Photoshop or take pictures at an angle to make you look “perfect”. Just don’t do it! It’s false advertising and you end up meeting people that are just as fake as you. If you truly want success with online dating be your true self. I’ve been up and down with my weight and it’s always been hard for me to post pictures of myself online. Unfortunately when it comes to online dating the profile picture is one of the most important things. It’s sad that most people won’t even talk to you unless you have a good looking profile picture but that’s just how things are. It’s all worth it though when you meet someone that ends up liking you for you regardless of what you look like or how you were depicted online.
5. It is possible to find “the one” online.
I actually know several people who met online that ended up getting married. All these people are of different ages too, so it’s not just a specific age group that finds success. I think having profiles is a faster way of getting to know someone but getting to know them in person is extremely important. You really can’t know someone in and out until you are with them in person. Hopefully if you start dating online and having success there, that it crosses over to have success in person. Sometimes it takes a couple of tries to get it right but in the end I think it is possible to have success with online dating.