The recent mass murder that took place at the University of California, Santa Barbara by a student may have most Americans asking if more gun control is needed. However, those who heard further details about the case – and the person who committed the crime – may wonder if the perpetrator really needed to see a psychiatrist.
The name Elliot Rodger may not be familiar to everyone, but to those who have seen the movie “Hunger Games”, Rodger is the son of its assistant director, Peter Rodger. Elliot, like some members of his generation, decided to take advantage of social networking and made a series of Youtube videos about committing murder, as well as suicide, as part of his premeditated plan which was the result of inward-directed anger and rejection. Even though these videos are now gone from Youtube, having been removed by the authorities, six people are dead, thirteen more people on the campus were injured, and the tragic final outcome, Elliot’s own death at the age of 22. What could have possibly caused this young man to fly off the handle and commit such a crime?
Elliot Rodger clearly worried about having women like him, unable to understand why he could not get women to like him while he saw all his male buddies getting dates in college. The YouTube video he made titled “Retribution” contains many disturbing comments, with the most frightening one being:
“I’m the perfect guy and yet you throw yourselves at these obnoxious men instead of me, the supreme gentleman.”
To most women, such words would mean the man has Narcisstic Personality Disorder, as well as being full of himself. In simpler non-psychiatric jargon, this means that Elliot Rodger thought he had something he really did not have. Rodger may have had a BMW, nice clothes that he wore to school, and of course a famous Hollywood name, but these are superficial things that would not attract women who are seeking a meaningful relationship with someone who has character and values. Elliot may have also suffered from a sense of entitlement, being a member of a famous Hollywood family, and thinking that he should be, in female eyes, the most sought-after man in the world. The only problem with this type of male mindset is that the men who do have it end up being undesirable by women – as in the case of Elliot Rodger. Of course, this is just one aspect of the perpetrator’s problems. Elliot Rodger seemed to have difficulty dealing with rejection, something which each individual is usually taught by parents. Are his parents ultimately responsible for not teaching their son how to deal with rejection? In an era of entitlements-mindedness, I would have to say yes. Here we have a young man, aged 22, who publicly complained about still being a virgin at that tender age, while also being given expensive presents, such as the BMW, all in an attempt to impress others, especially women. Unfortunately for Elliot, he ended up impressing no one and deluding himself into thinking he was better than his male classmates who had no problem getting dates.
It sounds like Elliot Rodger definitely had an attitude problem when it came to women, and such an attitude is one to definitely turn off women. A woman like myself would ask if he had to work very hard at turning off women. Maybe Elliot Rodger would have been better off not worrying if women liked him or not. Going by personal experience, the more men worry about getting women to like them – and men will do subtle things to turn off women without being aware of what they are doing – the chances these men will get rejected will increase. Being so young – he was only 22 years old – and in college – worrying about women and dating should have really never entered his head. At that age, most individuals would be thinking about how well they are performing academically in school, graduating, and getting their first real job. Had Elliot Rodger taken this approach to life, he would not only still be alive but he would probably have a girlfriend, too.