The bride-to-be has asked you to be a bridesmaid! This is a very exciting event. Before accepting this obligation, please consider some friendly “do’s and don’ts” advice from a seasoned bridesmaid.
Do consider what saying yes means
A bridesmaid is expected to pay for her wedding day attire. This includes the cost of the dress, alterations, appropriate undergarments, shoes and accessories. Often, the bridal party will join the bride for salon services like up dos, manicures or make up. Each bridesmaid should be prepared to pay their way and tip accordingly. Any travel or lodging fees are also your responsibility unless the bride offers other arrangements.
Time is another investment. The bride may ask that you attend bridal shows and dress shopping. She made need help with invitations, planning or coordinating. If the bridesmaids will be throwing a shower or bachelorette party, time and money will be required.
Really be sure that you can commit before you accept. Backing out after plans have begun will throw a wrench in the bride’s big day.
Don’t assume anything
Communication is very important. The first thing a bridesmaid needs to know is the date and time of the wedding. Be sure to request off of work and look into any travel that will be required.
Find out what the plans are for the shower. The bridal party is usually expected to attend the shower. There may be more than one, so be sure to jot dates down. Sometimes, the bridesmaids also fund and plan the party. Knowing what is expected early on is a must for budgeting.
Confirm dates and times with the bride the day before an appointment or event, in case changes have been made. Be sure to ask how the bride is doing and ask if she needs you to bring anything.
Do a little research
Take a few minutes and read a few articles on wedding etiquette. The Knot.com has a great section for bridesmaids. It also includes tips for throwing a shower and ideas for the bachelorette party. Bridal Guide.com is another place to browse, especially for helpful advice on dealing with dilemmas.
Don’t forget to smile
This is probably the best advice that I can offer. Smile and keep your mood up beat. Even the best plans can come with problems and grumbling about it isn’t going to help. Don’t like the bridesmaid dress? Smile and know you only have to wear it once! Are you nervous about giving a speech? Smile and speak from the heart, you will do fine. And most important, smile and enjoy the wedding!