I’ve had a few of these people in my life, of course. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be inspired to write about it. How about you? Is there someone in your life who’s always trying to sell you something? It could be the line of work they’re in. Maybe they constantly point out things they could take care of around your house. Maybe they simply have low self esteem and are constantly selling themselves. Maybe it’s a little of both. Whatever the issue is, it can be quite annoying to have them around. What can you do?
Never buy what they’re selling.
The constant salesperson has a goal. They are looking to make a sale. If you continually refuse to buy what they’re promoting, it’s possible they’ll move on to the next sucker. OK. Maybe implying that they’re trying to “sucker you in” is a bit harsh, but you get the idea. The law of supply and demand works in reverse, too. If you’re not forking over the dough, they’re going to have to get it elsewhere. In the process, maybe they’ll leave you alone.
Tell them you have it taken care of.
This works most of the time. Apologize that you can’t give them the work because it’s promised to someone else. I had to do this recently, because it was true. However, you may have to fudge a bit if it’s not true in your case. It’s OK. You’re not really lying. If this person is that annoying, chances are you do plan to hire someone else. You just don’t know who it is yet.
You can’t always do this. Sometimes you have to, for your own peace of mind. It’s OK. We don’t all get along with every person we meet. If you find yourself cringing when they ring the doorbell, maybe you should try not appearing to be home. There’s no shame in checking the door before opening it. Your time is valuable. On the other hand, if you find yourself constantly playing hide and seek to get away from this person, maybe you should have an honest talk with them.
How do you reason with low self esteem?
Low self esteem is a difficult character trait to deal with. You want to help the person feel better about themselves. On the other hand, their continual boasting puts you in a foul mood. The last time I had this issue, I solved it with kindness. I simply told the person that there was no need for them to prove themselves to me. I said they should relax, that I was a simple person who appreciates simple people. To be honest, I think they were relieved to know they could just be themselves around me. Problem solved.
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