Do you love your job, but do not care for a work colleague? I can relate; I have been there. Ask yourself a few questions:
- · Is it your fault?
- · Is it worth going to management about?
- · Are you in danger-professionally or physically?
- · Can you correct this problem?
If the problem is honestly not of your making, you have some decisions to make. If the dislike is petty and does not impact your performance or the professional demeanor of the office, I suggest you bite your tongue. And if the self-evaluation determines that it is your fault, take care of your bad behavior immediately. It is silly to think that you will always like everyone you encounter or work with; life does not work like that.
If the issue is impacting your work or the professional nature of the business, you have to act. If you are comfortable approaching the person, as an adult that is where you need to start. However, never begin a dialogue that could be negative with an erratic person or a person who scares you.
If you are unable to resolve this issue or scared of your colleague or his reaction, then you have to go to management. And more than that, you need to document any incidents that are questionable, argumentative, or threatening.
Keep any written records of the dispute, in fact; try to get everything you can down on paper. If you walk out of a meeting and you know something was said or done that should not have happened, send an email asking for a recap or clarification. You do not need to say why you need clarification, you can simply plead ignorance.
Compile this documentation and if you are giving updates to management, forward copies to them. It should never be your goal to get someone fired, but instead to resolve the situation. However, if things get to the point of documentation, you need to protect yourself. If this issue ends up with terminations-yours or the other persons, you need a paper trail. This is especially true if legal proceedings are going to follow.
You spend more time at your work than at home, so the ideal employment situation is a happy workplace. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Protect yourself if the workplace is a scary place. And of course, you should indeed contact your HR department or a lawyer if the situation is unbearable through no fault of your own. Be smart and be proactive when it comes to the work place and bad situations.