If you have a girlfriend, good job! You are a very lucky man and I hope you don’t take her for granted. As such, you should want to do your best to constantly impress her–not as a way of deception, but as a way of loving and serving her the best you can. The following are ways you can do that.
1) Tell her you love her
If you’re at this point in your relationship, don’t shy away from making your love for her verbal. Yes, she does want to see you show it, too, but people like to be affirmed verbally. Don’t be a guy that never verbally says you lover your girlfriend. In fact, say it often! Keep in mind, though, that there are times she might think you are just saying it to say it–but that’s when all of your actions should be showing it, too. So say the three simple words: I love you.
2) Compliment her
So many guys are, unfortunately, very critical of their girlfriends. They might be attracted to them, but for some reason they still feel the need to constantly critique every little thing that they might not like about their girlfriend. “I don’t like what you’re wearing,” “why did you do your hair that way?”, and “why don’t you start going to the gym” can quickly become very critical phrases to say to your girlfriend. Sure, there are times where you can lovingly tell your girlfriend what you like more and what you’re really attracted to, but you never want to make negative comments a habit. When there is something you are attracted to about her–tell her! Like the way she laughs? Tell her! Do you love her smile–tell her! Do you love how her hair looks? Tell her! Do you get the point yet?
3) Be slow to speak and quick to listen!
This is a very common saying for all types of relationships, but it certainly carries over for our purposes, too! Generally speaking, women love to talk. They want to open up to you, tell you about their day, and just have you listen. They are not always looking for advice–they are looking for you to affirm the way they are feeling and like to know that you are there to listen.
4) Initiate communication
The stereotype (that might be partly true) is that men never really initiate times of communication. It’s the wife/girlfriend who goes up to their man and says “can we talk?” Men, don’t be afraid to be the one of initiates communication. Ask your girlfriend if you guys can just sit and talk to one another. Ask her how her day was, what she’s struggling with, or even what her aspirations are.
5) Think marriage
Not sure you want to get married yet? Fine! It’s okay to be figuring that out while you date, but the whole point of dating is to lead to being together forever. If this is far from your mind it’s not fair for you to keep your girlfriend without any end goal in mind. Chances are, she is thinking marriage and will be devastated when marriage is never talked about or seems that it will never happen. Be open and honest with your girlfriend. Give yourself some time (not too much time) to get to know her (and vice versa) and be clear about your intentions.