If you’re like me, you know dating sucks. It doesn’t matter how you meet or where you go, it sucks. Why is that? Back in the day, people courted or got permission to date. Couples went to the movies and had dinner after. These days, if I suggest a movie date people look at me funny. I like movies and I enjoy seeing them with people I like. Is that a crime? Dating in the 21st century is a lot more work than it needs to be.
Dating nowadays consists of:
- · Facebook Requests
- · Twitter Direct Messages
- · Millions of Text Messages
- · Dating Sites
- · Zero In-person Conversations
These days we’d rather text than call and FaceTime instead of meeting in person. Is this really what dating is? Call me old fashion but I would like a regular, some may call them boring, date. I want to see a movie or go to an amusement park or just sit around talking. I don’t want to Skype or text you all night. That’s not a relationship. That’s socializing. Technology only makes things complicated when it comes to dating.
You don’t believe me? Has your boyfriend or girlfriend ever freaked because you liked some guy/girl’s picture on Facebook? Did they ask for your phone password? Did you learn more about that person cyber stocking them than just talking? Yes? I thought so. The internet is making dating hard. Of Course there are some things you need to know beforehand but did asking ever occur to you? And I know people aren’t the most honest but asking never hurt.
What about dating sites? I sometimes wonder why I bothered. I can honestly say, they’re all not bad, but they’re not meant for everyone either. At first, the conversations are great or flat out terrible, depending on whom you’re talking to, and then it can all go downhill. When you finally meet up, that extremely hot guy looks like your next door neighbor or is a total jerk. It’s such a waste of time.
Now, I don’t want to be a Debbie Downer and say we’ll all end up alone because we’re not. I just find it difficult, and so have many of my friends, to date these days. No one wants you to be yourself; they want someone completely made up. How can you ever fall in love that way? If we’re truly meant to be with someone, we need to be ourselves and put technology down. We need to have face to face conversations and go on cheesy dates. Why make this so hard? When it comes to dating, I believe simplicity is the key. A single rose smells just as great as an entire bouquet. Happy dating!