Dating today is a whole different world than it was 10 years ago. Today, there is social media, text messaging, email, online dating, and late night phone dating lines. The excessive amounts of technological communication have been a major hit when it comes to the dating game.
Nowadays, people ask people out on Facebook, Instagram, and online dating sites rather than in person when they find a person that strikes them as someone they may be interested in.
Today, 90 percent of what we are saying to those we are dating is coming from a text message. I remember when I would get butterflies would my “boyfriend” would call me to tell me goodnight and that I was the last person he would think about before falling asleep. Now, many of us wonder how many people are receiving that same text message?
In the past, when we had a disagreement with our significant other, we would talk it out and work through it. Now, we post subliminal messages on Facebook and Twitter and tell the entire world about how much our boyfriend/girlfriend is horrible to us so everyone can give their input.
Online dating sites have gone from trying to match people together for long-term relationships to a free booty call advertisement. Sites such as Plenty of Fish are known for getting people an easy hook up with no attachments. I often find on social media networks that people are complaining about how they can’t stand a liar, but they are the ones telling the most lies.
What are we? It used to be respected to be someone’s girlfriend or boyfriend; whereas now it’s just do we really need to put a label on it? I like to think that we are all intelligent human beings and we can figure out if someone is our boyfriend/girlfriend, however, today people like to avoid labels for the simple fact that they want to sleep around with multiple partners. What ever happened to monogamy? It isn’t that difficult to simply direct someone as to what your intentions are is it?
Don’t test me…I will fail! One thing that I have found to be a new fad in the dating scene is that we are always looking for ways to test one another. Let me tell you, you will never get that exact answer that you’re looking for. If you test someone, you are almost always setting them up for failure and setting yourself up for disappointment. Simply stated, don’t do it.
Dating in 2014 can be quite the challenge, what with trying to keep up with social media and what games are and are not acceptable. There’s no such thing as being yourself nowadays, it’s all about who plays the game better.