Ah, date night. We’ve all heard it proclaimed the holy grail of relationship health. But when money is tight, date night is a luxury not everyone enjoys. What does that mean for those of us who’ve had to pinch pennies for too many years.
Are our relationships less-than for not having shared expensive dinners we can’t afford anyway?
Even though times aren’t as tight for us anymore, and we’ve enjoyed our fair share of nights out and about, I still don’t long for date nights.
We don’t even make regular date nights a priority.
Does date night really matter? Is it the magic key to a happy and fulfilled marriage? I think you know my answer.
Love’s creativity can explode into your relationship even when your bank account is empty.
You know what our love looks like? It looks like listening, helping, and putting each other first. It looks like showing each other every day — in every moment — that we’re still all in.
When there are five minutes free while cooking dinner, it looks like my hand still falling perfectly into his as I take him outside, pull him close, and meet his eyes, so we can stop for a moment to connect.
Because for me? For me, date nights become another thing to check off my list, another task to get done, another rush to get out the door to another place where everyone else is rushing, too.
So I’ll take stolen moments and texts and phone calls. I’ll take emails and trips to the grocery store. I’ll take winks when no one else but me sees. I’ll take coffee made for me when I’m still grumpy from a night of heavy sleep.
I’ll take whispered conversations with pillows close.
I’ll take stepping on his shoes in the kitchen while he dances me around.
I’ll take laughter that comes so fully, tears sneak down our cheeks.
I’ll take running out to catch sunsets and stars too many to count.
I’ll take spontaneous moments of love over weekly scheduled romance — always.
The occasional planned date night never hurt anyone, but I don’t need a date to know that love still burns hot after 16 years. I don’t need date nights to prove our relationship bursts with health.
What I do need?
I need a simple glance from across a crowded room that tells me his thoughts are still with me through the chaos — a look that says, I still want you, and I’ll never stop.
That’s what I need.
That’s what I have.
That’s all I want.
And it’s more than enough.