One’s self-image can be thought of as the support beams for mental health. Self-image can be defined as how one views him/herself. The logic is simple:
– One who is happy with their self-image and who they are as a person has a higher chance of being mentally healthy, which is to say that their internal thought processes are clean and positive more often than not.
– One who is unsatisfied with their self-image has a higher chance of being mentally unstable, which is to say that their internal thought processes are typically skewed towards negativity and can twist the reality of a situation to be something far from reality.
An example of the toxicity of insecurity would be the oh-so-common misconceptions and assumptions through conversations. An insecure being would be more likely to view what was an intended neutral response as a negative or offensive response.
Mary – “I know you have to work late tonight, but would it be okay if we go grocery shopping tonight?”
John – “I’m fine with that.”
Mary – “If you don’t want to, we don’t have to. I’m just really hungry.”
You may be reviewing the example and thinking to yourself “so what?”, but there lies a deeper poison to the simplicity of the conversation. Mary acknowledged that there was a possibility that John wouldn’t want to go to the grocery store, seeing as how John was working late tonight, nevertheless, John agreed to go grocery shopping with a neutral response. A toxic individual views that neutral response in a slightly negative connotation, which then drives the defensive response which Mary then rebutted with. A healthy individual without insecurities would’ve viewed John’s response in the neutrality in which it was presented, and the conversation would have ended in a simple “Great! See you at 9!”, but not this conversation. John is now forced to preach the legitimacy of his willingness to go to the grocery store, despite Mary’s toxic assumptions.
Even in an example as minuscule as this, it’s easy to see how the dynamics of our day-to-day interactions are changed by our insecurities. Confidence in oneself is the new currency; few have it, and the rest want it.