I am flattered when someone tells me they love me, but I am not impressed! Love is simply a deep affection for a person, it can cause complicated emotion, but at its core it is simple. Simple is only impressive when simple doesn’t exist (ponder that). Societal perceptions of love, have transformed the word to mean other things, but to have a deep affection for another, does not in its essence mandate that you must and will commit yourself to taking care with them, for them or according to their needs. I have a deep affection for many people, friends, family members, admirable persons because of what they represent to the world; Minister Louis Farrakhan, Michael Jackson, Princess Diana, Joel Osteen, Alliyah, President Obama, Treyvon Martin, oddly Ana-Nicole Smith (much to my surprise). This love for people makes me tender towards them, but it does not make me ACT!
Devotion is a profound dedication; consecration, which is an act. Meaning you are dedicated to the service and worship of a deity. Deity! Is a God or Goddess; it could also be characterized by a divine character or nature of a being making it supreme. This is why; it is often uttered in the atmosphere Love and Devotion. Love is just a feeling, a feeling that can prompt a person to act, but it is devotion that lends to commitment, accountability, acceptance, responsibility and work! It is devotion to another that helps you support them when you are on your last leg of energy; it is devotion to a loved one or a caus that prompts you to act when a need arises. It is devotion to another, which encourages you to seek ways to meet another’s approval, i.e., do things that will bring them joy etc. It is devotion to a project, business or idea that leads a person to work 19 hours straight in a day, not go home to loved ones, and sacrifice comforts.
One too many times I have seen people demand things romantically and other wise on a premise of love. If a person has not dedicated themselves to you, then it is unreasonable to assume/demand/command they will make gestures of devotion, just because they love you. It is my belief that people become disappointed by things because they have an expectation that was not met. Possibly if, more people dealt with love in its proper context, they would not mistake love for devotion. Instead, understanding the proper meaning and association of the words and feelings would initiate proper communication in relationships, for example:
Man says, “Baby I love you”, Woman says, “I love you too”. Man and Woman are now under the perception they have an obligation, of some sort to one another. Relationship continues, Man has affection and shows it for another Woman. Woman says, “Man you said you loved me, how could you do this?” Man says, “I do love you” and wonders to himself why he does not feel wrong for expressing his love to another as well.
Why, are these people confused? Because, they misinterpreted what love means, which created a false expectation. This caused confusion for both parties. A better understanding of the word love would have changed the conversation, example:
Man says, “Baby I love you”, Woman says, “I love you too, but what does that mean for you?”
We can stop here. Because, Woman understood what love means, she knew to ask what it meant to Man. This type of understanding opens the forum to proper communication in a love relationship. Now, Man and Woman can have the opportunity to establish who they are, and what they would like to be to one another, without mistaking love for devotion.
Love is the easiest thing for a human to give, because it is in us. When people have a deep affection for others and have a disappointing experience. It could be because; they associated love with devotion, so now! Love is frightening and has a negative association in the mind, of the hurt. Causing them to run away from what is true, as they continue to experience romantic encounters, because they are active participants in societal perceptions of love and uninformed communicators in establishing ones devotion for them. Communication in life is essential for understanding, understanding is essential for growth. Relationships of any sort cannot grow, if proper communication does not exist. Remember you are responsible for yourself, so, it is pertinent that each individual seek to understand what they require from relationships and what things mean to others to define the necessary lines, which tend to become blurred when people associate love with the meaning of devotion.