Throughout my own relationships; I have learned that it’s not always about what other person is, even-though it’s crucial to be surrounded by people who bring best out of you not opposite. In a way it’s all based on your perspective and response. If you have joyful perception (positive attitude ,agree to disagree in peaceful manner and accept others for who they are )world is a very pleasant place to live.
Criticism is a killer. It stays in a belief system and slowly wears us down. You have to have “let-it-go” attitude to avoid suffering. Plaintiff uses criticism to disguise their own downfalls. On the other hand a person who focuses on enjoying life, does not have time or willingness to absorb or engage in negative activities.
First of all, people who constantly bring out worse in others are unhappy. They usually think that they know what they want and how world works, which is quite a delusion. Tunnel vision. There is no way to break this cycle until they drop blindfolds and start accepting themselves. Within loving yourself shines acceptance of others.
Many times unhappiness goes unnoticed as we are used to complainers, worriers and criticizers. It is crucial to detect and bring to our own awareness symptoms and particular style of expression . One thing is to vent out, have a bad day or disagree with logical injustice, another to proceed in constant fault searching in others ( treasure hunt in a sick way)
We all are unique masterpieces. Special in our own way and style; composition of one of a kind song, individual highs and lows.
Regards relationships it`s like finding that piece of puzzle that perfectly fits unique mold. You will know when it happens as you will become more whole.
Others don’t make us, we make ourselves. Happiness and being where you are is a choice. So before you criticize someone, take a look at yourself why aren’t you happy?
Make love and kindness be your commitment in life and everything will fall into places instantly.