Often we hear those around us stating that they can be friends with those of the opposite sex and they do not have to worry about it interfering with their relationships but is this really true? Can people be friends with those of the opposite sex and it simply remain a friendship?
I have always been one of those people who thought it was possible to be friends with someone of the opposite sex and that would be the end of it. We would be friends and nothing more. Through life, and by observing others I have learned that this is not always true. First there are those out there who are completely able to be friends with those of the opposite sex and still remain faithful to their partner. There are also those who are only friends with those of the opposite sex because they feel that they can fill the gaps in their relationship with those friends.
If you want to be friends with those of the opposite sex you need to look at the reasons you want these friends. Are you truly interested in being their friend or are you secretly hoping they will find themselves falling in love with you? Another thing you should look at is how often you are in close contact with this person, it is much easier to just remain friends with someone if they are not someone you come into contact every day. Are you physically attracted to the person? If you are physically attracted to the person then a friendship will never work, you will always be attracted to the person, and this will open your mind to all that could be. You will find yourself wondering if they are attracted to you also.
My opinion on if people of the opposite sex may not be popular, people may say that we have moved past the times when those of the opposite sex cannot have close friendships. Before you say that, honestly look at your past. Think about those of the opposite sex that you thought you would just be friends with. Did those friendships end up leading to a relationship? Why did the friendship end? Was it because the other person became involved in a relationship? Did those friendships cause problems with a relationship either you or your friend were already in?
You can be nice to those of the opposite sex, but having a real friendship with them is something that rarely happens. It is not to say that it never happens because it does but if you have a friend of the opposite sex, you really need to look at their motivations. If you are truly being honest and only want to be friends with that person, you need to make sure that you make it clear to them. You also need to make sure that is what they want also. You have to look beyond their words and into their actions because they will tell you they just want to be friends in order to keep you in their lives until they figure out how to move past the friendship stage.