I was a bridesmaid on two different occasions. One was my cousin’s wedding and the other was a friend. I learned a lot of different things from the experiences that I would like to share with all of you soon to be bridesmaids. Being a bridesmaid is almost like being the wedding planner. You must make sure you make the bride’s day as perfect as possible, and here are a few tips in doing so.
When you are chosen as a bridesmaid, it should be a special privilege because you know they want you to share in one of the most special moments in their life. So to that extent, when the bride needs you for anything, try to make it possible. All future and present bridesmaids be as agreeable as possible and go the extra mile. Be the best friend; however, don’t go so far as to let them look a mess on their wedding day. Let them choose how they want their wedding planed, and remember it’s a big difference between offering advice and forcing it.
Buy Nice Gifts
Bridesmaids should always have the best gifts. If you are very close then show you care and are happy for the couple with something nice and expensive. If you buy something cheap this could come off as a lack of concern or interest. As a bridesmaid for my aunt, I bought 3 gifts. One for the bridal shower, bachelorette party and wedding. The gift for the wedding should be for the two of them. The other two gifts can be just for the bride.
Support the Bride
Make sure everything you do is in support of the bride. Know her likes and dislikes and go with it. Be the shoulder to lean on through especially if she is experiencing cold feet. Be a positive light and keep all negativity on the outside. However, if you don’t approve of her chosen Groom, then you should let her know the reasons for your opinion. If you don’t see eye to eye then don’t agree to be her bridesmaid because it will make it hard for you to be supportive. When my Aunt was getting married a lot of people were against the idea. This caused a lot of confusion, and that is not needed for a future wedding. Also have a speech prepared for the wedding toast after the ceremony. At my cousins wedding I prepared a great speech that put a tear in everyone’s eyes. Make sure the speech is full of flattery and positivity.
Never Upstage the Bride
It’s great to look nice on the Bride’s wedding day, however never “try” to look better than she does. It’s her time to shine, so make sure she does just that.
Things can sometimes get hectic during planning a wedding. Even the bride may turn in to “Bridezilla.” However, it’s your job to make sure you stay calm cool and collected. If there is bride, family, friend, and even ex’s drama going on, make sure you handle it respectfully to ensure a great wedding. Never be a part of any negatively, and remember to handle yourself with humility and grace. That also means don’t bring up ex’s, even as a joke in front of the groom, and jealousy doesn’t look good on anyone. Never, never flirt with the groom, even if you are only kidding. That will keep you out of trouble. Also Remember don’t drink too much at the party or ceremony! I limited myself to only two drinks that night. There’s nothing worse than a drunken bride’s maid to ruin the day.
One of the worst things that can happen outside of the Groom not showing up, is someone apart of the ceremony showing up late. Don’t hold anything up, so make sure to arrive at least an hour early for support and last minute prepping! At my friend’s wedding, I’m glad I came early because she needed a little help fixing her make up after all the happy emotional crying she had done.