When it comes to relationships, there are guys who are cut out for it and there are those men how just don’t get it. Weather or not its innate that relationships are a common part of one’s life or if due to upbringing or past personal experience they have missed the “love boat”, there are still those haves and have not’s with regards to relationships.
There is a major misconception that African-American men have no want or need for a long term relationship. Contrary to popular belief, this is not the case. According to a national survey conducted by National Public Radio (NPR) in June of 2013, it touted that 43% of black men desire a long-term relationship.
Grazing over the fact that there is too much talk about how Black men are lazy and that they can never find a job, or just want to be taken care of (which we all know to be false), you have got to hone into the fact that whatever your race, creed, or even your gender, us as humans gravitate towards companionship – plain and simple.
But this is not due to the lack in trying to address the problem. Nationally, there are numerous programs that strive to meet the various relationship disparities needs that many different Black men lack due to a myriad of reasons. These programs fill the gaps left by social service agencies, which have limited funding, suffer from case overloads, and are unable to offer activities beyond the scope of their responsibilities but fail to do so in a holistic approach. By emphasizing relationship building, parenting, conflict resolution, financial literacy, domestic violence, active listening, anger management and other life skills aimed at fostering a holistic view of self sufficiency and relationship building, which is lacking in many at-risk communities while also providing supportive services to overcome barriers to self -sustainability, Black men are encouraged to work on their relationship with their significant others to focus on providing them with the nurturing and support they need for healthy relationship development.
Conversely, in many realms of influence, there have been studies conducted that deduce that childhood adversity could be a major factor why Black men may be construed as having relationship disadvantages. In a study that was funded by the National Institute of Child and Human Development it found that Black men were 28% more likely to be exposed to adversity during childhood than white men.
What it boils down to is that an upswing in communication and maybe a tad more patience could make the relationship jump leaps and bounds. Once a guy is finally in a long-term relationship, they want to do their best to make that relationship last. You have to understand that there are bound to be mistakes along the way, but for the most part we want to have a little commitment and its best to have an open mind when trying to do so.