It’s hard to resist the temptation of going on a guy’s Facebook profile before your first date with him. Though it may sound like a good idea to see if he’s college educated and previously (or currently) married, we may discover that we are searching for more things than we are willing to discover. Here are some things you may want to wait on finding out about him through his Facebook profile until at least after the first date.
His ex-girlfriend may be your current friend. Let’s face it: it’s a small world, and we are bound to know someone who knows someone who knows you. But there is no reason to figure that out now. If you find out that you know one of his ex-girlfriends, you will be more than tempted to ask her about him before you even get a chance to meet him. Don’t let anyone alter your impression on this guy before you even get to make an opinion of your own. You did say yes to going out with him for a reason. And that reason was not because his ex-girlfriend told you to.
He has a step-mother or aunt or older sister or someone who looks kind of mean. Does that mean he’s not a very nice guy either? You have no idea who those people are in those pictures on his profile, so making any kind of assumption on their relation to him, or on their personalities for that matter, is a waste of your time. Our minds are very powerful things, and have the ability to create notions that are absolutely false. Again, get to know him first before you get know his family or his friend or whoever that is in that picture.
He majored in something completely different in college than what he’s doing now. Does this mean he’s indecisive? Or just a liar? And there goes your mind again. By researching his background, you are already placing judgment on the poor guy before you even sat down with him. Who knows? He may have found his true calling in life after college, or is incredibly talented at more than one thing. No matter what it is, let him explain that to you when he is ready, not because you found out on his profile.
And lastly, he’s not that cute in his profile pic, so maybe you should cancel your date with him. The only thing you need to cancel before you go on your date with this guy is your Facebook stalking of him. End of story.
The moral of this article is that going on a first date with pre-judgments made via Facebook, is a terrible terrible idea. Nothing good will ever come out of assumptions about another person before you actually meet them. So before you go ON that first date with him, remember to stay OFF of his Facebook profile! Good luck!