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The day my stepdaughter moved out of the house to go to college, her father gave her a credit card so she could use it to cover for her educational expenses. He did this so she never had to go out of money, especially since she is going to college in a different state. The problem is that, as soon as he gave her the credit card, she started buying stuff that she does not need. The other day, my husband had to pay her bill, which was almost $500.00. When I told him that he should not be the one paying for her credit card, he said that paying for her college expenses was part of his divorce agreement and that if he does not do it, his ex-wife could take him to court. Is this true? Can the ex-wife take my husband to court just because he does not want to pay for his daughter’s over spending habits?
E. T. S.
Dear E, T. S.,
I see why you are as frustrated as you are. It seems to me that Ms. Little Princess and her evil mom are taking advantage of your husband and he is allowing them to do it. Yes, the ex may be right about your husband’s responsibilities of covering his daughter’s educational expenses, but I do not think that putting up with his brat behavior and/or overspending issues was part of the divorce agreement. If you want to get this situation under control for once and for all, I will suggest that you and your husband seek legal advice and see how he can deal with the situation without having to put up with his daughter’s money issues and his ex-wife’s irrational expectations that he needs to pay for everything that his daughter buys. I do not think is fair for you guys to have to deal with this, especially when the daughter is clearly using the money for things not related to her education. I think that talking to a lawyer as soon as possible will be the first step in trying to get this issue resolved. So, do not waste any more time and go and talk to a lawyer today.
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