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My son will be turning 20 soon and even when he is doing well in college, he has expressed a desire to work for one of those spy agencies. I have always supported my son in all the decisions that he has made during his life, but in reference to this particular decision; I do not know if I can/want to support him. I know the reputation these kinds of agencies have and the way they treat their employees, and I seriously would not want my son to be part of anything like that. He is a good kid and I am afraid that if he gets involved with one of those agencies, that they will change him forever. He asked me to do some research before making the decision of not supporting him, but I do not know what to do. Advice, please.
The Mother of the Soon to be Spy
Dear Mother of the Soon to be Spy,
I agree with your son. Before you make the drastic decision of not supporting him, I will say go ahead and do some research and see how things go from there. The truth is that your son seems to be the kind of person who knows what he wants and most importantly, has his head where it should be. Be happy that you have raised such an intelligent kid and give him the opportunity to do what he thinks is best for him. After do you the research, if you have any questions about this whole thing, have a nice chat with him and see if he can give you the answers to those questions. But, remember; one of the things about working for these kind of agencies is that employees need to maintain a certain level of discretion, so do not be surprised if some of the questions that you have, may never get answered. But, do not let that little detail discourage you from supporting your son. If this is something that he really wants to do, go ahead and show him your support. At the end, that is what a mother should do for her kid.
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