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My seven year old son is heartbroken and I do not know what to do to help him. His best friend recently moved to a different school and since that day, my son has been depressed. They were very close and now, my son does not have any other friends at school who he can play with. I am having a hard time dealing with this situation because all my son does now is play on his game console and doesn’t even what to go outside to play anymore. I talked to the teacher at school and she suggested me to contact the other kid’s mother and see if we can arrange a play date for the kids. The problem is that the reason this kid was moved from his old school was because the mother was caught cheating on her husband and she became the joke of the school. She did not want her kid to know what she did and that is why she moved him to a different school. Since what happened was a very serious situation, I do not think that she will be happy to hear from me. What should I do? I really want to help my son feel better, but I do not know if contacting the other kid’s mom is a good idea.
Dear C. M.,
If you are really concerned about your son and want to make things better for him, I would suggest you to make an effort and call his friend’s mom and see if she is interested in having a play date. The truth is that whatever mistakes this woman made does not have anything to do with her son’s friendship with your son. If your son is suffering, I am pretty sure her son may be suffering as well, and this will be a great opportunity to help these kids to feel better. Call her and explain her what is going on with your son and see what happens. She may be wanting to call you as well but may be afraid that you may not want to answer her call. Go ahead and make the first step and contact her today. If after contacting her, you realize that she has no intensions of allowing her son to see your son, then I guess it may be time for you to help your son to get out of that depressing mode by helping him meet other kids who he can become friends with. Kids adapt very easily and I am sure that your son is not the exception. Just give him a little push and see how things go.
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