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My friend “Tammy” just had a baby. She seems like a great mom but the only problem I have with her is that her baby always has a dirty diaper and she does not seem to care. There have been days when the poor baby has had a dirty diaper all day long and she does not do anything about it. The other day, I was in her house and while in there, I told her many times that the baby needed to be cleaned and she kept telling me that she was going to change his diaper, but she never did. At the end, I was the one who had to change the baby’s diaper. I really do not know what is going on with my friend and I am afraid that the baby is going to get a bad diaper rash soon and people will start questioning her abilities as a mother. Any suggestions on how to make her understand the importance of taking care of this baby the right way? Am I putting my nose where it does not belong?
C. C. T.
Dear C. C. T.
I think you are doing the right thing by seeking guidance. It seems to me that your friend needs to get her ears pulled ASAP. Being a mother means that the needs of your baby come first and if she cannot understand that, maybe someone else may have to make her understand. The fact that she is neglecting her baby like that may be a sign that she is not ready to be a mother yet and if that is the case, she needs to start thinking about what is best for that baby. Before things get out of hand and Child Protection Services get involved in the situation, I would suggest you to have a serious conversation with you friend and bring to her attention that what she is doing is not only bad for the baby’s health but also a very serious thing. She is lucky that you are there for her, but she needs to get her act together before Child Protection Services gets involved because if they do, things will not look good for her.
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