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My 17 year old daughter does not do anything other than to be on her phone all day. She does not help around the house, she does not help me with her siblings, and to make things worse, she stays up late at night just to play on her phone. This situation is driving me crazy and I want it to stop before I get that phone and throw it out of the window. I am not sure what her deal is, but whatever she is doing on that phone is obviously more important than anything else on this world and again, it is driving me insane. I wish I could make her put the phone away for at least couple of hours a day so I could get some help around the house, but as much as I tried to make her understand where I am coming from, she seems not to care. Any idea on how I can make this girl put the phone down and do something around the house for once and for all?
The Anti-cell phone
Dear Anti-cell phone,
As a matter of fact, yes; I do have an idea. Get the phone from her and put it away, and tell her that until you get some help around the house, she will not get the phone back. Believe me; as difficult as this may seem, it is the perfect solution for your problem and will show Ms. Little Brat that there are more important things in life that her playing on her cell phone; especially when there are things that she could be helping you with at home. I have to say that, what you are going through is not that uncommon. Teenagers nowadays see their phones as the only important thing on earth, but it is the parents’ responsibility to make them realize that there are more important things that they could be doing other than being glued to their phones all day long. So, go ahead and do what you know is right, which is taking away that phone from her until she gets her act together. At the end, you know that doing that is the right thing to do; you just have to go ahead do it and see how things go from there.
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