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My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. He is a great man and I love him a lot. The issue that we have is that I am so ready to be his wife, but he keeps telling me that he cannot get married now. Every time we have this conversation, he gets upset and tells me to stop pressuring him and that when he is ready, he will propose. I feel very bad about this situation because I really love him and I would love to be his wife. He seems very firm with his decision and I do not know what else to do to try to convince him to propose. Am I being too pushy? What if he never proposes and I end up being the “girlfriend” forever?
The Pushy Girlfriend
Dear Pushy Girlfriend,
I think that it is time for you to face reality. Your boyfriend is not ready to marry you and there is nothing you can do to change his mind; at least not yet. If you really love this person, I will suggest you to stop being so pushy and leave the issue alone. He already told you how he feels and for the sake of the relationship, you should respect that. The truth is that this man is truly not ready to marry you and eventually, he will find your “pushyness” very unappealing and may decide to get you out of his life for once and for all. My question for you now is; are you willing to lose him just because you cannot wait until he is ready to commit? For some people, two years is not enough time for them to decide if they want to spend the rest of his/her life with a person and that may be the case of your boyfriend. Just give him time to decide what is that he really wants to do. If after giving him time, he still does not propose then I guess it will be time for you to do what you think is best for you. And, when that time comes, you surely will know what is best for you.
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