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My name is Scarlet. I am 27 years old. I am five months away from getting married and one of the things that I wanted to do before my wedding day was to lose weight. My soon-to-be husband is very fit and he suggested that I should lose some weight so I could look more beautiful in my wedding dress. I agree with him and that is something that I want to do for him but also for myself. The problem is that I have not been able to accomplish this goal yet and I am running out of time. I lost like 10 pounds since I started working out but now that we are so close to the wedding day, I have not been able to lose any more weight. I am getting very anxious with the situation because I do not want to disappoint my boyfriend, but I do not think I will be able to reach the goal of losing 50 more pounds. Am I pushing myself too much? Should I just let it go and concentrate in what is really important? Please, help!
The Soon to be Wife
Dear Soon to be Wife,
Let me start by saying that if you really want to lose weight, you need to do it because you want to do it, not because someone else wants you to do it. On the other hand, in your email you said that you are five months away from you wedding day. Honey, losing 50 pounds in five months is not only crazy but also very unhealthy. This is not a joke. Losing 50 pounds in such a short period of time could be extremely dangerous for your health. What I would suggest you to do is to honestly ask yourself why is that you want to do this and if is really that important for you to do it. Preparing yourself for your wedding day should not have to be such a stressful situation. This is your time to have fun and enjoy every single minute of it. So go ahead and do that. And, if losing weight is something that you really want to do, then go ahead and do it, but do it the right way so you do not put your health in jeopardy. You want to be a healthy wife not an unhealthy one and your husband should know better than that.
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