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Recently, I made one of the most difficult decisions of my life. I have decided to divorce my abusive and cheating husband. I have wanted to make the decision for quite a long time and couple of days ago, I decided that enough was enough and hired a lawyer to help me get this man out of my life for once and for all. The problem that I have is that if I do divorce him, I will be taking the risk of ending up homeless. He told me once that if I wanted to divorce him, that I was the one who had to leave the house. At this point, I really want to divorce him but I do not want to end up homeless. Any idea on how should I deal with this situation?
Soon to be Divorcee
Dear Soon to be Divorcee
I commend you from making the decision of leaving your abusive husband. The fact that you are involved in an abusive relationship should be reason enough for you to get out of it as soon as possible, and I am happy that you are doing it. I do understand your concerns about not having a place to live once you divorce this man, but you should not allow those concerns to prevent you from getting out of that problematic relationship. What I would suggest you to do is to reach out to your friends and other family members to see if one of them can help you out. I am sure than once people know what you are going through, they will be more than happy to help you out. If after talking to them, you still cannot find anyone who would like to give you a helping hand, then I will suggest you to reach out to one of those help lines for victims of domestic violence and see if they can help you find a shelter where you can stay until you get back in your feet. These organizations work very hard to help victims of violence and in your case, they will help you to deal with the situation without even asking you for all the details. The important part here is not to stay in an abusive relationship just because you are afraid of the future. Get out of there as soon as possible and start working on getting your life back. No one deserves to be treated that way and you are not the exception.
Below, I am including some links that you can visit from agencies and organizations that provide help to victims of domestic violence:
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