I have slept on the same side of the bed my entire life. This was not on purpose until recently, after learning the strong trend between women and men. I made the observation about myself, and really questioned why I was so consistent. The side of the bed you sleep on is determined by several things.
- Which side your alarm clock/night stand/phone charger/whatever you keep beside you when you sleep is on.
- Which side you physically lay on the bed. When lying on your back and facing the ceiling, one of your arms is closer to falling off the bed. That would be the side of the bed you typically sleep on. Also, if you sleep with another person, they would be to one side or the other of you. Determine the side you are on by deciding which side of that person you are on.
- Which side of the bed you get in and out of each night and morning.
These three things are typically the same for people, but if you have one that is different, that one doesn’t matter. The side you sleep on is whatever the majority of the list above is on. If you have a twin bed, or sleep alone and use the ENTIRE bed, this may not apply to you as well.
In my years as a college student, my best friend and I would randomly take polls of random people around us. We would be having a conversation and we would both end up wondering something that we couldn’t determine the answer to by ourselves. To solve our internal questioning, we would ask a group of people the same question and get their answers, and based on the large group of answers, we would make our own conclusions. We would typically ask peers at parties, bars, social events, or while in class. Many times, these questions would make for great conversation with new people and many strangers became friends for a short while.
Women on the Left; Men on the Right
A poll question that we ended up asking very regularly is which side of the bed people sleep on. I knew for myself, the answer was the left side. Always. We asked about people’s current sleeping arrangements, their past sleeping arrangements, their parents’ sleeping arrangements, and anyone else’s sleeping arrangements that they might be familiar with and there was a definite conclusion. Women were typically on the left and men were on the right side.
But there are exceptions to every generalization…
As with many answers, many people’s situations were a little wishy-washy if they lived in different houses during their life, or sometimes slept with a sibling or significant other, but it could always be determined which side someone favored. Unless there were other physical reasons, our conclusions were definite, and it was apparent that women slept on the left side of the bed and men were on the right. The common exceptions were:
- Safety: The side with a door or window is the side the man specifically chose to protect the woman he was with. Also, the side near the door or window was one that people who slept alone avoided.
- Animals: Firstly, I was surprised how many people allow their animals to sleep with them. On top of that, they usually let the animal have first pick at which spot on the bed they get.
- Room set-up: The light switch was closer, or the bathroom was closer, or there was only one way to put the bed and that certain side was up against the wall, or there was an air conditioner in the way.
- Moving: Lived in so many different houses in life that the bedside it changed with many of the moves.
- Other people: Adding other people into the bed, whether it was siblings at a young age or a significant other, or several significant others, this changed the side of the bed many times with the differing circumstances.
It seemed people had fell into the trend, or they had to specifically think about their bed arrangements before sleeping. The trend was obvious, though. Ninety-five percent of the time, women were on the left and men were on the right. Think about your own circumstances. Do you follow the trend? Is there something that forces you to sleep on the side that you do? To look further into this theory, I would venture to guess there is a psychological phenomena that causes the tendency. Maybe if you sleep on the opposite sides for no apparent reason, you should change your behavior. Maybe sleeping on a certain side betters or worsens relationships. Maybe people on a certain side of the bed are happier. One thing is clear: women sleeping on the left and men sleeping on the right is the arrangement during many people’s nights.