Pressures of life getting you stressed and frustrated? Find the balance you need by slowing down and taking time for you! Learn to relax!
There was a time when I was so wound up; always on the move and never slowing down or taking time to relax and just do me. I was (and could still be) an extremely high energy person. My mind can race a mile a minute moving my body at high speeds and keeping every muscle and nerve in my body tense. Thing is, I was consciously aware of my tenseness, but I never realized I needed to do anything about it or “what” I needed to do about it for that matter; until I came to the realization that I didn’t want to be tired and fatigued all the time, and I wasn’t enjoying life. That’s when I knew I needed my life to change. So here’s what I started doing.
Focus – paying attention
First I had to learn to focus on my body and mind simultaneously while performing an activity. Formerly my attention was on whatever activity I was involved in and working at high speeds to complete the task, to the point of exhaustion; then I’d rest.. Learning to be consciously aware of my body and mind (consciously and subconscious) while performing a task, allowed me to carry out a task at a slower pace; a pace that would allow my nerves and muscles to be in a relaxed state of being. You’d be surprised how not having a conscious awareness of the mind can affect the body. From experience, I’ve come to realize that when I’m not consciously aware of how my conscious mind is affecting my subconscious, my subconscious will randomly affect my body because I’m not providing it with conscious direction.
Slowing down was the beginning of devoting time to me. Doing so provided me with an awareness that I didn’t initially have. So I began to utilize that awareness to devote even more time to being relaxed and getting into me.
It seems that people always infringe on your time. Maybe not intentionally, but the fact remains that they do. Someone always wants you to do something for them; and when it’s a friend or family member we don’t like to turn them down, but I’ve had to find tactful ways of saying “no”. For example I might say: Today isn’t a good day; so not to commit to any time frame, I’ll say “check back at a later date and ill see what’s on my schedule. Bottom line is, most people can carry out the task they ask you to carry out, but if you’re a people person and people have learned that you will drop everything and put them before yourself, then they will impose, but I find that keeping people responsible and accountable puts an end to that dilemma. So ultimately saying “no” frees me up to have more time for myself.
Scheduling and being organized
I have specific days when I’ll do things. Take house cleaning for example. I set a day aside just for cleaning etc. and I don’t deviate from my schedule. Things can be out of place, and cleaning can wait until its day comes around. Ultimately the scheduling becomes second nature. The key is to stay on top of things – be organized.
Now that I pay conscious attention to my body and mind (consciously and subconsciously) I feel so much more relaxed and at peace. I realize myself moving at a slower, disciplined pace; not allowing anything nor anyone to push me into doing anything I don’t desire to do or that will take away from my me time; and, feeling good about it!
Learn to relax
I now take the time to sit by the window and enjoy a meal, watch the birds, and listen to them serenade! Or watch the sun rise or set. When I have something I need to do, I simple take my time! I want to get the most out of life and that calls for me putting me first, doing things I enjoy doing, and finding time to relax!
I hope you will learn to relax and find time for you! It’s a part of living a healthy life style! Nothing is more important than your health!