Did your partner just get out of a relationship and jump right into one with you? This can make you wonder if they really want to be with you or if you are simply a rebound for them. Wondering if you are the rebound girlfriend or boyfriend can be hard but there are some ways for you to tell.
The first thing you want to look at if you are wondering if you are a rebound is how long it was after their previous relationship ended before they decided to be in a relationship with you. If this was almost immediate, you can pretty much assume you are the rebound. It may not have been on purpose on the part of your new partner but the fact remains that if they did not take the time to process the break up and get over their ex, you are a rebound.
How quickly did the two of you become physically intimate is the next item you will want to look at. If you became intimate fairly quickly, than that is a sign that they were using you to get over their ex. I have heard many people say it is easier to deal with a break up if you are sleeping with someone else. Most people know what they are doing when they are doing this and if that is the case with your partner, you are nothing more than a rebound for them.
Third, if your partner often talks about their ex, bringing up odd things they used to do, where they liked to go, or who they are dating they are obviously not over their ex and once again this makes you a rebound. If you find yourself in this position simply tell your partner that you do not feel like they are over their ex and you feel they should take some time to heal from that relationship.
Does your partner make it a point to show you off and brag about you to friends who might come into contact with his ex. This is a sign that he is simply trying to make his ex jealous and not really into you. It may be that they have a lot of friends in common if they were together a long time but chances are if he is constantly trying to tell people his ex knows how wonderful you are, you are a rebound.
Finally, do you think you are a rebound? If you feel like you are nothing more than a rebound than chances are that you probably are. Trust your instinct and end the relationship. If your new partner decides that they want to be with you after they have gotten over their ex, they will be back. If they don’t come back than you have saved yourself a lot of pain in the future.
So if you feel like you fit in to any of the above categories chances are you are a rebound and it is time to end the relationship. Tell your partner how you feel and tell them that after they finally move past their ex if they want to continue a relationship with you than you will be open to that. Do not spend your time waiting on this person to get over their ex. If someone better comes along, do not let them go on the hopes that this guy will come back to you.