Have you noticed that anxiety is becoming more and more popular? People are anxious! Everywhere! Why would that be? Well, I don’t know…maybe turn on the television, read the newspaper, Internet or anything that is being consumed by the public-at-large at any moment. Fear sells! I was looking at the weather.com page the other day and noticed how every single article they had posted feared me into reading it. How am I going to avoid getting cancer? What is the latest weather tragedy? The environment is f$cked! Brown recluse spiders are going to bite me in my sleep and my skin is going to rot so deep you will be able to see my bones! What about accidents? Insurance! I’m going to need lots of insurance: life, earthquake, fire, rental, etc., because at any moment anything could happen! I got news for you. We are getting played and it shows! All these fears are making us walking-talking energy balls of anxiety.
I was having a conversation with someone the other day and they were getting all kinds of worked up about being feared into not doing something and this something was awesome. My response was “What is the worst thing that could happen?” Their response was, “I could die!” and my response was “Well, then you would be dead and it wouldn’t matter, now would it?” I am not trying to be insensitive but come on, we have bought into these fears so much that what is happening is not only are we fearing death but we end up fearing life. Our anxiety levels can reach a point of a life-living paralysis. We stop living. And what is the point of that?
Let’s take a look at the few things anxiety comes from and dissect the fear right out of it. From the broader scale you can start with the fear of death. Let’s call this the death of the ego because if we can agree that on some level, (energy or spirit) we are absolute and incapable of death, then the only thing that is capable of death is this cavity of a body we are hauling around. Everything in form dies. This is no surprise to anyone. So why are we in such fear that this is going to happen, when we all know it will? Death and taxes-both are gonna git you sucka. I promise.
The next area that anxiety reigns king is future tripping-not living in the present moment. What if-ing the hell out of your future. For the most part, we give ourselves anxiety about things that have yet to happen and with high probability will not happen. As I said before, speculation is the world’s greatest waste of time. We work ourselves up into a tizzy of cyclical thinking-a merry-go-round that isn’t so merry. We have a thought, go to the “what if” and then back to the original thought and then go to another “what if” and yada, yada, we have all done this before. We cannot stop this if we keep thinking about the future. We can only get off this un-merry-go-round by pulling ourselves off and becoming present.
The common bond that these two areas of anxiety have is that they both come from our thoughts. Our thoughts create our anxiety-this is your boogieman. You are your worst enemy. The good news is that you can change this. Why? Because there is nothing to fear. I said it. There is nothing to fear. But, Holly what about all those healthy fears, aren’t those good to have? Healthy fears are bullcrap. Listen, you can do or not do something because you have a brain and are smart enough to make a wise decision. There is nothing healthy about being afraid. Nothing. You can stop. Leave the drama for your momma, grow a pair, put on your big-girl panties and start showing up and being the magnificent, fearless and life-living balls of energy you are capable of being. Believe your way out of your anxiety: There is nothing to fear.