Wedding season can mean excitement and anxiety for brides, grooms and their families. Since I’m an etiquette consultant, those mixed feelings typically result in an overflowing inbox of questions from all sides. Typically, intense interest in a particular subject is newsworthy, which makes it a perfect topic for morning news segments. This was the case recently as I visited two of our local stations to offer expert Wedding Etiquette 101 advice.
The Q and A session
One interview was a typical straightforward question and answer segment with three of my most asked questions. (Video)
How do couples inform guests of their wedding website?
There can be a link on the “Save the Date” or newspaper announcement. Still, it should never be listed on wedding invitations, as these sites typically have gift registry information. Speaking of gifts, registry information shouldn’t be listed on the first page of your wedding website. However, a link to a registry page at the top or bottom of the front page is perfectly acceptable.
As a guest, how do I know what to wear to a wedding?
Play detective. Discern the formality of the venue and time of day. The paper used for the invitation may offer clues as well. A formal wedding is typically indicated by using heavier paper and engraved printing for the invitation. If after considering these hints you are still confused, call the bridal couple for help.
Must I purchase a gift from a couple’s registry?
No. Gift a gift from your heart, something that reflects your relationship with the couple.
Interview number two was a quiz
This was one of my most enjoyable interviews, as I had the opportunity to quiz the new anchors. (Video) Let’s see if you can get the answers correct as well.
1) I’m getting married soon and want a honeymoon registry. How can I inform guests of where to find it?
- A) Post your registry on Face Book.
- B) Post your registry on your wedding website.
- C) Post your registry on your wedding invitations.
2) As mother of the groom, may I wear a red strapless gown to my son’s daytime wedding?
- A) No.
- B) Yes.
- C) It depends on the formality of the wedding.
3) We are planning a destination wedding. Do we have to pay all the expenses for our attendants?
- A) No.
- B) Yes, but you only have to pay for your honor (best man & maid of honor) attendant’s expenses.
- C) Yes, but you only have to pay two-days of lodging for all your attendants.
What were your answers? Do you feel good about them? Well, let’s see how you did.
1) B. However, there should be no mention of gifts on the front page of the website.
2) A. Mothers never wear strapless gowns to their children’s weddings. Additionally, red is an absolute no-no.
3) C. All attendants are treated equally.
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