These words are meant for others who are also ordained, who have the same power within your communities to effect changes that are needed. Right now in our world there is so much violence, and so much turmoil, that it seems as though we have no other choice than to live with it. This is not the truth. The truth is that we have in our hands the power needed for us to make it known to groups of people within our own home communities that violence is unacceptable, intolerable, and is not needed. I make it a point, all the time, to make it known that which is no secret – the violence that we all experience, have been witness to, know as “normal,” even as it is not, in the streets and in our communities – all that violence begins at home.
I am addressing other clergy at this time and for one reason – we have the power, as I have stated already, to help bring about these changes in our own communities, and it begins with those two people who are coming to you to bind them in holy matrimony, dependent upon the beliefs at hand at the time, until death to they part. What we each have privilege to within these people who stand before both us and Spirit on their wedding day is an example of how we, as clerics, can get the message to these communities by telling these young people who will one day have kids of their own, that no matter if there was violence in their lives brought about by their warring parents, that it does not have to be that way. It never has to be that way. They can change the way that history repeats itself. They can be the catalyst for the changes needed to curb violence in our communities.
We can tell them that they are not required to repeat either, or perhaps both, of their own personal family’s histories of violence. We can let them know that they do not need permission to be good to one another, and we can tell them, too, that if they need to talk to someone, that the help is there, and that our door will always be open for them. We can do our part. We can give these people a better chance at living without the violence. We can tell them that there is nothing and no rule that they need to follow that tells anyone that they must follow in the footsteps of the violent people who came before them. There are so many things that we remind them to do before their wedding date, and the one thing that we rarely bring to their attention, long before the actual ceremony, is that while the potential for violence is in everyone, the reality of it being in their homes does not have to become real.
We have the power to give these people the message that they can stop the violence, they can change the circle that they might have been born into, and that they are not required to hurt each other, purposely, at all, if they can help it. We who are “of the cloth” have a duty, not only to those people we join in Divine Union, but more, the generations which will come into being from that one union, and yes, to the communities which we all call ours.
We have this power to bring great changes to our communities, and ultimately, to the world, and all we have to do is open our mouths and speak.
So open up your pie hole and speak already, to those lovely kids who are hanging on your every word, hopefully until death do they part.
Yes. It is just that easy.