So you and your significant other think you are ready to take one of the first big steps in your relationship? The first vacation you take as a couple is exciting, but it can also be a surprisingly stressful strain on your relationship. Improve your odds of surviving your first vacation as a couple together with the following things in mind.
What to look forward to:
Romance – You’ll be able to build perfect memories that last a lifetime.
Excitement – You won’t just have fun during the vacation, but planning for it as well. Planning is be a good way to communicate more deeply about what you both want to do as a couple.
Together Time – If you’ve only ever been around your friends and family, a quick vacation might be just what you need to get away from it all and spend some quality time with the person you love.
What not to look forward to…
Stress! – First vacations are notorious for breaking couples apart. Take care to keep an open mind and remember why you are with that person in the first place.
“Testing” – For a lot of people this will be their first chance to really get to know each other… and you might not always like what you find.
No Alone Time – You will have no time to yourself if you go on a vacation together, and for some people, this may be hard to accept.
My Personal Tips for a Better First Vacation:
- Make sure you are both involved in the planning. And when planning your itinerary, make sure that both people have something that they are excited about on the list.
I made this mistake by telling my (at the time) girlfriend to go ahead and plan the whole vacation. As a result I went to one of the most beautiful places in the world – Bali – and spent 4 of the 5 days on shopping tours. That was the first and last vacation we ever took together.
If one person is CLEARLY showing interest in one activity, DON’T look bored when you do it! Fake interest if you have to, but they may be hurt if they are trying to show you something important and you don’t pay enough attention.
This time I guessed right – a visit to her hometown that sounded pretty boring, but I agreed to anyway. Turns out that it actually was a pretty interesting place, AND she thanked me for letting her show me where she grew up.
So be aware that a lot of people are tested on their first vacation as a couple, but if you can stand each other even on vacation, maybe you’ll have what it takes to be together for life!