Since the beginning of time, people have always wondered what it takes to have a successful marriage. Some say they have all the secrets to a happy relationship. But the truth is: there are no secrets. It is a matter of respect, trust, understanding, forgiveness, laughter, and of course love. Marriage is not a guarantee for a fairy tale ending, but rather a compromise and a choice to want to be happy which comes from both the husband and wife. Here are five simple ways to strengthen and build your marriage.
Sometimes when a major mistake like adultery, lying, or even gambling are made by your partner, you may feel like throwing in the towel; especially if they are recurring problems. But if your partner is making an honest effort to change, dwelling on the past will not change the future. Always forgive them and help them to take steps to continue bettering themselves or else you both will be stuck in dark rut without moving past the mistakes.
2. Be Honest
We all know what it feels like to be lied to or to be misled. Feelings are hurt, trust is broken, and it may be hard to forgive and forget. Marriage without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it as long as you want but you’ll never go anywhere. Honesty shows that you love your partner so much you do not want to hurt them by hiding or misconstruing things.
Never expect your husband or wife to know what you are thinking. Nobody can read minds and it is not fair to be upset when they do not read your mind correctly. To you the answers may be clear but sometimes your feelings are not so obvious to your partner. A big mess can also happen when you didn’t pay a bill and your partner thought you did or you weren’t aware it was your turn to get the kids. Many problems could easily be avoided if husband and wife communicated more.
Life can be very hectic at times and it might seem like you have no time to collect your thoughts, let alone go out with your husband or wife. This can be more so if you have children. But if you are neglecting your one on one time with your marriage partner, you are also neglecting strengthening your bond between each other. Go to dinner, bowl, watch a movie, take a walk or go shopping. Whether or not you spend money, dates are a beautiful way to reconnect and relieve stress.
5. The Little Things
Sometimes we forget that the littlest things can make the biggest impact. If she likes flowers, get her some just because. If he likes steak, make him his favorite dinner to show you love and were thinking of him. Simple things like a kiss on the head, bringing home a treat, packing a lunch for work, or starting their bath will remind your partner that they were on your mind.