When you decide to end a relationship, the discomfort is overwhelming. While the magic may be gone you do not want to hurt the other party. The trick is finding out how to separate in a gentle way. These five steps will allow you to do just that. You will be able to end the relationship without causing unnecessary harm.
While fear and anxiety may have you feeling defensive do your best to communicate clearly. Accusing during this time will only magnify the feelings that are present.
2. There Is No Fault
Remember as you go about ending the relationship not to blame the other party. Chances are you both did the best you could. Putting fault on yourself or the other person is simply a cop out.
3. The Past Is The Past
Many things probably led to the deterioration of the relationship. Using the past as a weapon will do you no good. While this time is certainly tense, do your best to be present. Reliving every failing that the other person may have will only breed more anger. Therefore intensifying the need for a confrontation.
4. Make It Final
When ending a relationship the most compassionate thing you can do is make it final. While it may be tempting to leave an emotional door open, it is simply cruel. This action is a disservice to the both of you.
While ending the relationship was your idea releasing may still be a struggle. Holding on to this person creates confusion around your motives. Though it is hard, you must release as fully as you can. Time will take care of the rest.