Dating is hard. Thankfully, I have not had to date in over ten years since I am married, but I hear a lot of my friends stories about their “dating lives.” It honestly, sounds brutal out there! First dates are the worst. Both people involved are naturally nervous, and it may be hard to “get-to-know” ones date without it sounding like an interview. Here are 5 questions that you can ask your date without sounding like you are interrogating them.
What is your favorite book or movie?
This question give you an idea if they are more of an “intellectual” person based on what types of books and/or movies they like to watch. It gives you an opportunity to see if you have common interests without sounding pushy or abrasive. If you are a serious, studious type person, and your date is into comic books and cartoons, this may not be a match made in heaven.
What are your favorite activities?
Knowing what kind of activities one does gives you a glimpse into their lifestyle without sounding pushy. Do they go to the gym a lot, travel, spend time with friends, party, or stay home and watch TV? This question allows you to gauge wether you have common interests and/or activities as them.
What accomplishment are you most proud of? Why?
By asking this question, you will learn a lot about how ambitious they are. If you are an ambitious person who has accomplished a lot or plans on accomplishing a lot in your lifetime, it may be better suited for you to be with someone like yourself.
What is something that you would like me to know about you?
Putting the “ball in their court,” is a great way to hear and understand how they view themselves. Are they bragging, or acting like they are hiding something? Think about a few things that you would tell your date about yourself before you go on the date. Based of your answers and the answers they give, could possibly be a good “indicator” if you both are compatible. Let them describe themselves, but don’t let them dominate the conversation and only talk about themselves.
What would your friends say about you?
This is a really good question to ask your date. We are often our “true” selves around our friends as we comfortable with them and they are often similar to us. Listen for “red-flags” and see, based off from what your date says, if you think you could possibly get along.
Dating is never is easy, and it is hard finding “prince-charming.” However, preparing yourself ahead of time, you will have better success finding someone who is compatible with you. Spend time thinking about what qualities you have to have in a mate, what qualities you can tolerate, and what qualities are “deal-breakers.” When asking your date questions, try to sound natural, not forced or prepared. Be your natural, normal self. Good luck, and happy dating!