A social media profile says a lot about an individual. Often times it’s the first (and potentially last) way a woman will judge a potential mate. There are simple ways to enhance your Facebook profile and presence, making you more appealing to women.
1. Don’t be a Facebook Like/Comment “Creep”
This should be the #1 rule of Facebooking for men. If you’re just getting to know a woman or have female acquaintances who you’re interested in, don’t like or comment on every single thing they put up. It’s shocking how many men like or comment on pictures of women they’re not involved with. Liking a picture or telling a woman how beautiful she is without even having a date with her is the biggest Facebook faux-pas that men make.
I’ve seen it countless times where guys who comment about how beautiful a girl is end up getting ignored. All that happened in that situation is the woman got an ego boost and the guy got rejected. Don’t put something in if you’re not getting something in return. That might sound selfish but you wouldn’t work for free or invest in a stock that will definitely lose money, the same principles apply to women. Compliments shouldn’t be random, and should only come after the woman has put an investment in you as well.
2. Avoid Overly Personal Relationship Statuses
When going through a rough time emotionally it’s possible for those emotions to take over, leading to critical lapses in judgment that can haunt you for a lifetime. That might sound dire but it’s the truth, how others perceive you can be permanent under certain circumstances. I’ve seen men who put up depressing lyrics and go absolutely bonkers on the entire existence of women after a break up. If you’ve done this in the past, immediately go delete them, the rest of the tips will be here when you get back. If you haven’t gone on an emotional or woman bashing tirade but feel the urge to do so in the future, take a deep breath and relax before typing a thing. A status like that can ruin your image to every single person (not just women) who reads it.
Even if you’re feeling rejected by a woman don’t bring it up on social media. Text a friend, tell a family member, or call somebody who will listen but exploding on the opposite sex on social media isn’t the way to go about venting frustrations. A break up can be difficult to deal with, but the actions of one woman should not define all women. If you’re going berserk on an ex it can be extremely scary to women who consider dating you and it’s not a good look in general.
Statuses should be positive and interesting. A woman doesn’t want to date a bore or a complainer. If you absolutely must vent on Facebook about a bad part of your day, humor always helps to keep a status light and friendly instead of aggressive and angry.
3. Have Intriguing and Fun Pictures
Having a wide array of pictures doing interesting things is a must. If you’re going to do something exciting make sure you get a picture of what’s going on. That doesn’t mean you need breakfast, lunch, and dinner or every day gym selfies, but if you’re going rock climbing, to a concert, to a sporting event, or any other exciting occasion then take all the pictures in the world.
Anything that will signal to a woman that you know how to have a good time is a plus. It also doesn’t hurt to have pictures with groups of friends or with other women. If you have pictures with other women, even if they’re your friends, it sends the message you’re comfortable in the presence of women.
4. Take Time Away From Social Media
This tip applies to statuses, pictures, and social media in general. Don’t consistently post plans or take pictures of every single activity you do. Being a completely open book isn’t the best thing on any profile.
The best way to envision a social media profile is like a highlight reel of a full sporting event. ESPN doesn’t show entire NFL games, just the highlights. Similarly a social media profile should have new material every so often instead of every few hours or even every day. Use Facebook sparingly and effectively.
It’s good to show that you’re exciting and busy but no one should know what you’re doing at all times. It’s also a bit weird if you’re coming off as a fun exciting guy and then you’re on Facebook chat 24/7. Staying logged off the chat even when on and only being “visible” on rare occasions is the way to go. If you can’t genuinely be busy at this point in time, then at least make an effort to be busy, a hardworking man is attractive to women.
5. Be Honest with Career/Education Information
This final tip is last because it’s something I only see every so often, but it should be addressed so a mistake isn’t made in the future. When listing a job or degree, don’t make something up that doesn’t exist or that you’re really not a part of. It’s completely fine to leave off what you do or where you went to school, keeping those things private can actually be a good thing.
It’s understandable if you don’t want people you met once or twice knowing where you work, but making up a completely false job or an attempt at a humorous one isn’t a good idea. For example you shouldn’t be listing your job title as “King”, located at “My Castle”, with the job description “Ruling my kingdom.” Putting up something like that in your job or education field comes off as immature.
I can assure you that even if a select few women may find it funny, when her parents or friends look you up or ask to see your profile it’s going to make things extremely awkward if/when you meet them. It’s best to either be honest or leave these fields blank entirely.