After a divorce there are a couple of things that you need to do. Doing these 3 thing in particular will better all aspects of your life.
1. Change your name, if you need to.
Some people decide to keep their married last name after a divorce but if you choose to restore your name to your maiden name, or even change your name to a new name, you need to do so immediately. I decided to restore my name to my maiden name after my divorce. It wasn’t that bad of a process but I did have to do some research. Since I live in California I went to the California Courts government website to get the information that I needed. There I found out that I had to have the “Notice of Entry of Judgement” with the official judgement of the case. This was the official document from the courts stating that the judge okayed the divorce. On the California Courts website it stated that I needed to bring this judgement document as well as fill out an Ex Parte Application for Restoration of Former Name After Entry of Judgement and Order and bring both of these to the court clerk where my divorce case was filed. I also had to pay a fee of $45 and have a judge sign off to allow the restoration of my name. It was a little bit of work but I’m glad to have my own name again. If you decide to restore or change your name after a divorce do it as soon as possible or it will be much harder to get all the paperwork in order. I did it within a month of being divorced and now everything that needs to be is in my correct legal name. Changing your name gives you a sense of individualism again.
2. Close any joint accounts.
There are a couple of reasons why you want to close any joint accounts after a divorce. The most important reason why you want to make sure that you are off any joint account is so that you can’t be held responsible for any wrong-doing your ex-spouse may do with the account. For an example, if your ex starts over drafting money from a joint account you can still be held responsible if your name is still is on the account. Another good reason is to give you more independence. This lets you get on with your life and not have a financial connection with the ex. After my divorce I made sure to not use any joint credit cards we shared as well as getting off our joint phone bill. Bills are important to split as well. If just taking off one name on the account is not possible then close the account all together.
3. Have “you” time.
Going through a divorce can be very stressful and emotional. After the divorce, and even while you’re going through it if you need it, take some time out for you. You might need a vacation or simply some alone time at home. It’s good to socialize with friends and family as well but make sure you take some time out where it’s literally just you. You can use this time to relax and reflect. This will ease your mind and should make you less stressful. After my divorce I found walking outside to be very therapeutic. It gave me a lot of time to think about things and come up with a plan on what to do with my life now. Taking a bath, listening to instrumental music, or reading a book are nice relaxing things that you can do. You may even want to check out meditation or learn how to do different breathing exercises. The main idea is to find something you can do by yourself that’s relaxing.