Newly single, online dating was new to me, so I began my exploration into the various sites, prices and people looking for a place I felt comfortable creating a profile and meeting complete strangers. I asked myself if this was a good idea, would it be fun, I would soon find out. The following are five of the many things I learned while dating online.
Everyone is looking for someone to connect to: There are so many people out there looking to meet someone new, for someone to fill the voids that have existed in their life. Sadly, this holds true for married men as well as single. Not everyone you meet on single dating sites are single, so beware and be clear who you chat with.
Don’t believe everything your read or hear: You can’t trust people to quickly and need to take your time getting to know them. It is easy to believe people online but what you find to be the truth when meeting them in person can be completely different. I thought I really got to know some only to find out most things were lies.
There are a few good men: A few bad apples can spoil the whole bunch and I found myself doubting everyone and very hesitant to meet people in person but I kept at it only not as often as I had in the beginning and I did meet a few good men, some of whom are my very good friends to this day.
Pictures can be deceiving: I have met men who said they weighed a specific weight only to meet them in person and finding them to be sometimes 100 pounds heavier. Men in particular like to post older pictures, some over ten years old. These same men want to make sure that they get a current picture of you so they know what they are getting into. There is something wrong with this picture! (pun intended)
Some men are looking for only one thing: Yes, men have this reputation, have had for years and I am here to testify that it holds true for some. No matter how much you talk about things, how much they tell you they will respect you and want to take it slow and be friends, the old saying proves itself to be true when you actually meet them.
Be on the cautious side until you feel totally comfortable to move forward with someone.