Congratulations! One of your family members or close friends are getting married, and they want you to be a part of their special day. This is a huge honor and a responsibility that should not be taken lightly, but what does “being a bridesmaid” REALLY mean? Although each bride has different tastes and expectations, I’ve listed a few “Dos and Don’ts” for you to use as a guideline.
Start saving money for your spot in the wedding.
- Expect to pay for your own dress, hair, makeup, shoes and accessories. This will cost a few hundred dollars, as most dresses are $100+. If the bride doesn’t mind all the bridesmaids hair matching, you will be able to save some money by doing your own. Better yet, find a friend in the wedding party and practice wedding hair on each other. Also, start visiting the makeup counters and learn how to apply your own.
Attend the wedding rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.
- Even if this experience hasn’t been ‘picture perfect’ up until this point, you need to be there. No exceptions!
Be helpful. Offer to help with planning tasks.
- If the bride is stressed (it’s inevitable), then look for her mother or the wedding planner and ask if there’s anything you can do to help.
- Especially on the day of the wedding. Make sure the bride can find you, if she needs you.
Show up late for ANYTHING!
- This is totally unacceptable. Don’t make the bride, or other wedding party members, track you down to see where you are. If you’re meeting up at 10 am, plan on being there at 9:45 a.m.
Complain about anything the brides picked out (at least not to the bride!)
- So the style of bridesmaids dress isn’t something you’d pick out for YOUR wedding and the shoes are uncomfortable and/or hideous. Get together with someone outside the wedding party to complain, or even a fellow bridesmaid, but do NOT let the bride know you’re unhappy.
Make a spectacle of yourself by drinking too much. Forget anything you are responsible for bringing.
- SIDE NOTE: If you DO forget something, do NOT let the bride know!